Had a great trip to the cities to see my sis and go to the NKOTB concert which rocked!!:) I have an amazing sister who I love tons!!! I’m thinking it might have been too much road time for my mind to think about fear and failure.
Guess what, I’m not perfect and have had plenty of failures in my life which I think that is where most of my fear stems from. Failure never feels good and I understand that but for me it is something bigger. It is something that creeps up on me time and time again. I know we all have fears and failure is just part of life at least that is what I’m told so learning how to deal with it becomes the bigger issue.
What do you fear? How do you handle that fear? Of course we all have those fears growing up like being afraid of spiders which I’m deathly afraid of or heights and so on. Also, tornadoes as being in a twister when I was young has made me have nightmares about them forever. As we get older I think our fears turn into something more than our imagination. The biggest fear of mine is failing those around me and just in life in general. For a perfectionist like myself failure is usually not an option and when it happens everything spirals. Also, for me the fear of not being enough. I want to be everything to everyone around me and give them 100% of my time and attention because I believe we should be there for our friends and family when they need us. My last biggest fear is not leaving a legacy or mark on the world before my time runs out. I always have felt like I was put here to do something more and can not figure out what that is supposed to be? I have always talked with my former college student employees about leaving a legacy wherever you are. What if I can’t make that happen? What if I fall short and don’t make an impact? Someone so young like Zach Sobiech, can even make an impact when their time was cut way too short (Please take time to watch how special this young man is by clicking here and what he did as he is an amazing human being and we can learn a lot from him-Tear Jerker). Also his amazing song Clouds: Listen Here! I am sure he had tons of fears but used them for something greater and has made want to better!!!
Where does this fear come from? I have never been told I’m not enough and I have a very supportive family. I think it is in our genetic makeup or within our chemical balance in our brains of course it could be due to some life circumstances or events that have happened too?! I think there is a lot of pressure out there to be better and do bigger things. I know I put a ton of pressure on myself!! I want to be in control and make sure everything works out but over the years have had to learn to let others help and share the responsibility. I think learning from your fears is something everyone needs to do so you know how to handle them somewhat. I love this Ted Talk about Fear as it puts it in somewhat of a perspective for me: Click Here! If you have those fears maybe do what Eleanor Roosevelt said: “You must to the thing you think you can not do.”
I challenge you to conquer your fears and LIVE!
Music: Let’s take it back in time since I am going to a NKOTB concert featuring Nelly and TLC. I love listening to old songs as it brings feelings back as if I were standing still in those moments.
Listen Here: Don’t You (Forget About Me): Simple Minds: The Breakfast Club Soundtrack (Favorite Movie)
I spent many days listening to this song over and over!!!
Girls Just Wanna Have Fun: Cyndi Lauper
Free Fallin: Tom Petty
Back in the Summer of 69: Bryan Adams
Hanging Tough: New Kids On The Block (Something from the concert! Listen :))
Go go Chasing Waterfalls: TLC
Over & Over: Nelly ft. Tim McGraw
Until Next Time……………
Traveling With Jo 