I was walking to get lunch at work today and life just kind of slapped me across the face. I recently was at a luncheon where someone talked about how “We Forget” the little things that others may be less fortunate to experience. This idea as made me think more about how I conduct life and what I forget I have daily. We are so continuously busy with life that we tend to just go through the motions and not being present. How do we be present in our own lives? How do we be present in our children’s lives? How do we remember instead of forgetting?
When we are children we are oblivious to what life is throwing at us and we are just able to live in the moment. I wasn’t like most children as I felt life deeply and had a hard time with the world around me. I enjoyed the moments growing up but even now the memory is starting to fade to black and white. I look at my daughter and just stare at her beautiful face knowing what memories she still going to be able to create. I am constantly reminding her to enjoy each moment and take it all in as I don’t think I did. This week it was interesting how some of those memories came flooding back as I saw Luke Perry, Lane Frost or Dylan from 90210, pass away from a massive stroke. My friends and I would get together on Wednesday nights and watch the newest episode of 90210 and I can still hear the laughter echoing in my friend’s basement. Life is such a precious gift and probably the most wasted gift we have ever been given. I would never want to go back in time to fix anything or relive a moment, but I wish my brain could keep all those memories locked in a place where I could open them in secret just to peek
occasionally. I try to remember moments of those that have passed, and it brings tears to my eyes as I would love to hear their voices one more time.
We forget to slow down and breathe when it really matters. I try to conduct my life and live each day, so I don’t have regrets which I know sometimes isn’t realistic. Lately, it has become interesting as life has flown by and I barely have time to breathe. I try to take in these moments too because my daughter has been enjoying her activities and I know one day she will be off on her own. It is such a crazy balance of complete chaos, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Maybe it is about the small things such as leaving a note for your loved ones in the morning or sitting with your child at night before they go to bed to talk about their day? Do we make time for ourselves? Do we make time for our loved ones? Do we let those moments pass so we can regret them later?
The smell of morning homemade breakfast on Sundays
What it is like to not have a cellphone in our hands
The way it felt when your friend told you everything was going to be okay
The moment when your grandma gave you that bowl of ice cream before bed
The feeling of having your extended family all in one room during the holidays
The last day of high school sitting in the commons area with all your classmates
The hot sun at the pool where candy bars were melted for snack
The moment when your parents told you good night, don’t let the bed bugs bite
The music selection in the car has been interesting as we travel back and forth from swimming. Jocey is definitely my daughter as she is mesmerized by music and loves it all. I hope you enjoy the two selections on this post as the words have me thinking on a future post.
Millionaire – Chris Stapleton (Click Here)
They say “Love is more precious than gold”
Can’t be bought and it can’t be sold
I got love enough to spare
That makes me a millionaire
The image in your eyes
Reflecting the pain that has taken you
I hear it in your voice, so ridden with shame
From what’s hailing you
I won’t give up so don’t give in
You’ve fallen down but you can rise again
So don’t give up
Until Next Time……………………………..