“The best competition I have is against myself to become better” ~John Wooden
Traveled to Milnor, ND which was very interesting since I hadn’t been there yet, of course I arrive at my destination and it was cancelled due to electricity being out, so back to Fargo I went (hence the picture above). I have been contemplating a lot on why we judge one another? I think it has been on my mind a lot more since my job is to stand in front of people and present on Health/Wellness topics almost everyday. I stand up there and try to be confident but then of course I get those few people in the room that I can feel are judging me as they snicker and whisper (one of my biggest pet peeves). This could be all in my head but then why do some feel the need to do this while I’m presenting? I think we tend to judge one another because it is what society does and we see it on a daily basis. We judge people on bigger topics such as religion all the way to small things like what a person is wearing. I feel it could be the way we are raised as I grew up in a family where I was told we should judge no one and love everyone. However, even though that is what I was taught, growing up I still heard people judging others and of course I joined in as I wanted to fit in?! Some of us are raised in families that do judge, of course we love our parents and want to be just like them when we grow up, so no blame in that, but when do we start thinking for ourselves? I also thought maybe it was a small town thing but when I moved for college I found out that my theory wasn’t true and no matter where you go people will judge. How about the society we live it as it is EVERYWHERE on TV and on Social Media and the younger generations are way to exposed at a young age to this concept. My daughter, who is 5, comes home and tells me someone doesn’t like her because the top she is wearing is grey instead of pink? WHAT and so the bullying/judgement begins, which makes me want to pull my hair out!
When I moved to Fargo for college I took a step back and felt like I could finally be me without being judged as much and could maybe write a new chapter. I surrounded myself around others that didn’t judge which was refreshing as it didn’t matter how much I had or what I was wearing or if I had a certain view on a heated topic but they just liked me for me?! What a concept I thought, to LOVE without judgement?! Once, I got my first big girl job I needed to hire college students and that was the one thing I never did was judge as everyone no matter what deserves a chance at something great!!! I had student’s helping me in the hiring sessions who would tell me I shouldn’t hire someone because they were quiet or because of what they said and my response was always, I think they deserve a chance and maybe we can help them achieve greatness.
Everyone has a story and we never know what that is by just looking at the outside. “Don’t judge a book by it’s cover,” I know cheesy right but yet so true. What if we all stopped judging? What if we took the time to hear someone’s story or actually get to know them first without judgement? I’m not saying you can’t have your own opinion as if we all thought the same it could be pretty boring, but don’t judge those that have a different opinion?! What if we raised children and taught them to love others no matter race, gender, social status, and so on. Would there be more peace and not so much hate (Odd One: Please Listen: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wgbv3d-k7sA)? Now is there going to people we just don’t get along with? Of course, there is and sometimes we remove those individuals because maybe they are those energy vampires that suck the life right out of you. However, even with these types I don’t judge because they are the way they are due to their own circumstances but I do chose to have them not bring me down too. (Friendship is it’s own blog coming soon). We are not born to hate, but born to love and what we choose after that is our own doing. I challenge you to take a look at yourself and see how many times you judge someone else and ask yourself why????!!!!!
Music: I love SHINEDOWN, I have seen them in concert 4 times and each time they amaze me. I think it is because the lead singer, Brent Smith, takes the time to talk almost before each song. He also throws a little inspiration in as he goes along. I listen to them almost on a daily basis and their music has been with me through the good and bad.
Call Me
Amaryllis (In a while now, I will feel better, I will be better)
45
Sound of Madness
Until Next Time……………..
Traveling With Jo 